Archive for June, 2017

Start Doing This If You Want Better Relationships


Strong relationships with others are vital components of a healthy and happy life. Those that are able to build connections with other people tend to lead longer and richer lives.

Those that cannot maintain relationships are more likely to experience loneliness or depression. The effects of both are detrimental to the health of both the mind and body. If you experience difficulty connecting with others, there is a way to build stronger relationships. Whether that be at work or in your personal life, the formula is the same.

Communication is Key

I often get asked the question, “Brian, what is the key to building successful relationships?” And my answer is always the same: Communication.

Much of your success in life is going to come from your ability to communicate well with other people. Successful people know how to communicate and have taken a lot of time to improve their skills.

Communication is just as important in romantic relationships, friendships, and business relationships.

Social intelligence, the ability to interact well with others, is one of the most respected leadership qualities.

Do you want a raise at your job? You’re going to have to ask for one and be prepared to communicate why you deserve it.

Want to let your significant other or friend know that they’ve upset you or hurt you in some way? You’re going to have to be able to communicate with them to ensure they understand how they made you feel.

Invest Your Time

In communicating well with another person, time is the critical factor. The value of a relationship can increase for both you and the other person. It depends on the amount of time that you both invest.

When you take the time to focus on the important issues in your relationships, you open the channels of communication.

Listen attentively, calmly, quietly, and with total attention. It demonstrates the respect you have for the other person, and you deepen the level of trust between you.

Deliver a Clear Message

Effective communication starts with being clear in your own mind about what you want to say. Then be clear when you deliver the message, saying it slowly and patiently.

Finally, make sure that the other person hears the message that you sent.

When you communicate with another person, this is what happens:

The first thing is you send a message into the air in the form of words. Then, the words are received by the other person. They interpret them in their own mind based on their own thoughts, feelings, and so on.

After that, the other person formulates a response and sends the response back. You receive the response and translate that into meaning and significance. Then, you send back your own response.

It’s easy to see how in the midst of all of that back and forth, the original meaning of your message could get lost. It is all based on the other person’s interpretation of your words. This is why it’s so critical to be clear and concise in how you word things.

If you give vague examples or don’t eloquently express your feelings, you leave an open opportunity for someone else to analyze what you meant.

Ultimately, they may come to an incorrect conclusion.

Effective Communication Takes Time to Master

Effective communication is something that takes some time to master.  It can change depending on the person you are talking to.

The key is to understand who you are speaking to. Determine what the ultimate goal of the conversation is and the best route to deliver the message. By consciously doing this, you’ll notice that all of your relationships will begin to improve over time.

Can you identify one person in your life with whom you need to communicate better? What steps will you take to repair that relationship?

It takes a great deal of self-confidence to develop your social intelligence and interact well with others. Discover your current level of self-confidence and how to take action toward building greater confidence in yourself.


Start Doing This If You Want Better Relationships is a post from: Brian Tracy's Blog

Here’s Why You Haven’t Achieved Your Goal Yet

not reaching goal

Simply put, successful people are goal-setters. Goal-setting applies to every area of our lives. We set goals for our careers, relationships, families, finances, etc. Our ultimate goals, however, set the course for our lives. The ultimate goals define the direction that we go in.

Unfortunately, some people never achieve their ultimate goals in life. They limit their self-confidence and they limit themselves.

Learn how to set achievable goals. Get my FREE 14-Step Goal-Setting Guide.

Identify Your Limiting Step

One of the most valuable exercises you can engage in when setting long-term goals is to ask yourself, “What is my limiting step?”

What is the one factor that determines the speed at which I achieve my goal? Or can I achieve it at all throughout my personal development?
The ability to identify your limiting step is one of the best demonstrations of your intelligence. It is a huge step towards building self-confidence.

Your capacity to eliminate this limiting step is one of the best demonstrations of your overall competence.  You can achieve anything you want.

Self-Confidence is the Critical Factor

In studying everything that has been written or said about personal development and success, I’ve come to a conclusion.  Your level of self-confidence is the critical factor in everything you accomplish. When you have enough self-confidence, you will try almost anything.

Because success is largely a matter of averages or probabilities, the more things you try, the more likely it is that you will achieve them.

The same is true for you. By setting goals, trying more things, and exploring more opportunities, your probabilities of success increase dramatically. The only real limiting step to success that you might have is your level of self-confidence.

When you reach the point at which you believe in yourself fully, the barriers that exist in your external world will not stop you.

Build Your Self-Confidence

The major obstacles to success always lie within the mind of the individual.

They are not contained in external circumstances, situations or people. By building self-confidence, you win the inner battle. The outer battle seems to take care of itself.

I have learned three important ideas for building self-confidence. First, accept complete responsibility for everything that you are and ever will be.

Second, accept that you can change your situation only by working on yourself. Learn what it takes to be better. Third, set goals with timelines for the things you want. Then, work every day to bring those goals into reality.

Practice Persistently

Our natural tendency is to work hard until we find a method or technique that works for us. Whether that be in life, work, or relationships. Then, for some perverse reason, we promptly abandon the technique and go back to behaving in our old ways.

Setting goals and thinking positively act as a mental program for our personal development. Just like an exercise program works on our physical development.

If you expect it to work for you, you have to practice it persistently and keep at it indefinitely.

Apply the Success Principles to Your Own Life

When I began to apply these proven success principles to my life, I was able to bring about almost miraculous changes in every area of my life.

Every successful man or woman that I have ever talked to or read about has come to pretty much the same conclusion. By every measure, you have more talent and ability than you could use in 100 lifetimes.

You, too, can step on the accelerator of your own potential and begin moving forward at a speed that will amaze you by setting goals.

What is one goal that you have always wanted to achieve, but been too afraid to go after?

Leave a comment below, and I’ll be sure to follow up with you.

Goal-setting allows you to achieve your goals faster than you ever thought possible. Download a free copy of my 14-Step Goal-Setting Guide for exercises that will help you plan and achieve your goals for the entire next year.


Here’s Why You Haven’t Achieved Your Goal Yet is a post from: Brian Tracy's Blog

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